Phoenix: Live Love Laugh

After years of heartbreak, comparison, and timelines I built on my own, I finally accepted that I am enough. Here’s how God reminded me of my worth and shifted my view on love, timing, and relationships.

You Are Enough

My story is made of broken pieces and bad choices—but also of major comebacks, soul peace, and grace that saved my life.

One thing about having too much time and a mind that never stops processing…
You start unpacking everything.
Thoughts. Feelings. Memories. Pain. People.

And sometimes, you just need an outlet to pour it all out.

Seven Weddings and a Question

I’ve been a bridesmaid seven times.
Yes—seven.
(That includes once as Maid of Honor.)
So I have seven happily married friends and family members.
Well… six. One now co-exists in a very complicated situation.

Anyone who really knows me knows this:
I love LOVE.
I’ve always been its biggest fan, loudest cheerleader, and most faithful believer.

Which often left me wondering:
Why doesn’t love love me back?

When You Ask If You’re “Enough”

There are so many memes and motivational speeches about it—
“You are enough.”
And while they’re encouraging, they used to leave me wondering…

• Was I never enough?
• How does one become enough?
• Does “enough” have a checklist?

I’ve had breakups that led to my ex marrying the next person—not because they were happy, but because of pregnancy pressures, guilt, or outside opinions.

And it made me ask:
Is that what “being enough” has become? Settling? Being trapped?

When Someone Says Marriage Is Overrated…

Recently, someone close to me—who had married out of pressure after an unplanned pregnancy—told me that after 18 years, he sees marriage as “overrated.”

That stung.
Not just because of our history…
But because marriage, when done God’s way, is sacred. It’s not overrated—it’s undervalued by a world chasing status, ego, likes, and attention.

We’ve replaced commitment with convenience.
And we’re glorifying audiences over intimacy.

But God Reminded Me…

I don’t believe anymore that love has skipped me.
I now know—love never forgot me.
God whispered it to me over and over again:

“You are enough.”

Not enough to settle.
But enough to wait.
Enough to be whole without needing someone else to validate it.

And when the one God sends arrives, he’ll already know what I know now:

“Love is patient, love is kind… It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
— 1 Corinthians 13:4–7

I Used to Chase Love… Without Asking Permission

For years, I poured my heart into loving people—
Cooking, cleaning, buying, supporting, fixing…
But I never asked God if I should.

I only prayed after the heartbreak,
Begging Him to show me truth.
And even when He did, I didn’t always listen.

Let me tell you something I had to learn the hard way:
When you pray about something, make sure you’re ready to hear the answer.
It might not be what you want to hear,
But it will always be what you need to hear.

I Am Enough. And Love Loves Me Back.

I spent years running my life on my clock—
But God showed me He’s the one holding time.
So He stripped it all away—everything I built on my terms.

And in doing so, He reminded me:

• It’s His timing, not mine.
• His will, not mine.
• His plan, not mine.
• His glory—not mine.

Today, I am more settled in my singleness than I’ve ever been.
Still healing. Still learning. Still growing.
But I am enough.
And Love loves me back.